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Originally Posted by lizzie4249
Thanks for the help guys! No he never brings her up anymore now that we are in a relationship, sometimes I do as part of the insecurity of the situation and he usually gets mad at me for bringing her up and says he only ever thinks about her when I bring her up! He says he's happier with me than he has ever been and he was so young when he was with her! (about 17-21). Even though he reasures me if I bring it up I still wonder WHY he talked about her in the first place, I have ex's too but I have so little interest in them now that they never even pop into my head! Maybe it's just a guy thing, or maybe it's because she was his first girlfriend/love?? No he never said he wanted to get back with her or that he had feelings for her, it was pretty much just loads of memories of her and him together popping into his head! I think the best thing I can do is stop tormenting myself and forget about it..
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The brain can be an evil thing, Lizzie. Sometimes it likes to force us into these painful, repetitive thought patterns that torment us.
Here is what I think you should focus on. He's with you now, and he seems pretty devoted to you. He never brings her up anymore, and he even feels uncomfortable when you do. If all his attention is on YOU, then I think it's safe to say that he's available to love you.
Guys are NOT very complex creatures, for the most part. I would take what he said about being happier with you than he ever has been at face value. And the next time you start to feel insecure, remember what he said
