I do have contact. There is no other option for me. I can't really explain why so that anyone understands though. My children prevented it at first. (not having contact) After being told by my brother that the family was disfunctional, and it was my fault, he proceded to tell me 101 ways I have done horrible things to the family. Evidently he got my sil in on it also. I have been the scapegoat all my life;that won't change.