Maybe just a
teensy bit off topic but... when I was new here, another member posted something about anger that intrigued me then and still intrigues me now:
Quote:
Originally Posted by Elysium
One thing that we learn in DBT is that anger is considered a secondary emotion. It acts as a coping skill almost for other emotions such as fear, disgust, sorrow, to block a person from feeling these emotions.
So my anger I had towards it really wasn't anger at all, I learned. It was fear!! Fear of failure, fear of something new, and even the fear of getting better, because if I got better, then I wouldn't know who I was anymore. Who would I be without all these issues? It's a scary question for anybody.
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I have no idea whether it works that way for everyone, nor how you can easily find out if it does for you. If it did, though, I'd hate to think that a forum specifically for discussing anger might sometimes be a distraction from looking at what could be behind someone's anger.
This is just me. Your mileage may vary.
