Kehly, I've been looking a a website about anger and there is so much good stuff there. One thing is an article about "The Doormat Syndrome." I've been thinking of that site when I read your posts, so here's the link: http://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/index.htm

I'm not actually hearing anger in your posts so much as hurt and dismay and wishing that you could help your husband. I see a lot more anger in his actions. I guess it just seems like anger would come along with all this stuff, whether you are expressing it or not. And I find that that site really deals with the underlying emotions too, so maybe it's worth a look.

I'm sorry that he's been acting this way, and I wish that he were willing to change, but I just think you're going to have to take care of yourself and your kids and maybe set an example of acting in a healthy way, and hope that he will find his way too.

Rap