I would not expect T to remember on her own, if I never said anything. However, because I brought it up-- I said last week: "I'm really worried about being disappointed on my birthday. It will hurt me if people don't remember"-- because I said that, I do have the expectation that she will remember. During that conversation, T also told me when her birthday is. It is not for several months, but now that I know when it is, I will remember. I have already decided on making her a hand drawn card.