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Originally Posted by Ygrec23
I think that in a way, therapy is a bit like AA: For them to work, you have to be close enough to the end of your rope so as to feel truly humble and needing someone else's help, whether a T or a group (AA). That means no longer standing on an intellectual high horse or otherwise feeling superior to a T, which are both, in their own ways, defenses thrown up by your unconscious to prevent you from going into therapy, as are all too many other negative ideas about therapy and the therapy process.
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Successful therapy takes courage, bravery and guts. If you really need therapy, then resistance to therapy is a matter of fear, anxiety and timidity.
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I've never had defenses of the kind you describe. I've been a teacher most of my life, in one way or the other, and am profoundly aware that you can learn all kinds of things from all kinds of people in all kinds of situations. I've never felt superior to T's in general, or the T's that I've worked with, although I have un-chosen quite a few T's that struck me, in the interview process, as not the sharpest knives in the drawer (as they say in the South). Humility, or the lack thereof, hasn't been an issue for me either.
The only thing that has ever kept me out of therapy was an unwillingness to deal with what I knew I needed to deal with-- in different ways at different times, issues from my past. I always knew that the right T would be able to help me with this and perhaps more importantly, I had *hope* that it would change my life in the way that I wanted it to change.
Anne