Rainbowzz,

I too experience the same problem. But, I have a book called "The Dissociative Identity Disorder Sourcebook" by Deborah Bray Haddock, ISBN # 0-7373-0394-8.

It not only has great resources for us, but there is a chapter just for "Survival Tips For Significant Others". It covers basic communication, boundary issues, and self care. Throughout the book, it also addresses ways for us to communicate what we need to and explain it to others in our lives. It really has a lot of great answers. It's written by an abuse/DID specialist in Minneapolis, Minnesota. For newbies, it has some ideas, lots of ideas, on managing the disorder, setting up survival lists, emergency lists, etc. I have found it an invaluable source book.

Songbird