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Originally Posted by just_some_girl
I guess the session boiled down to:
(in a nutshell,) T: You need to get a job. I can't see how else you can move forward.
(in a nutshell,) Me: Yes, but I want a meaningful career, but I don't know what I want to do anymore, or how to get it, and I don't feel ready, and I HAD a job (and everything that goes with it) and I couldn't cope, I was a MESS, and I'm terrified of putting myself in that position again.
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Sounds like you are not ready for a "career" just yet.
Perhaps a less "meaningful" job would also be less stressful. I can see that there might be some spiritual solace in mopping floors. A simple job well done, and then home.
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Maybe my expectations are too high for therapy as well as everything else  It's not like I feel we get nowhere, I'm just impatient we can't do more, annoyed that the hour goes so fast, frustrated that I have so much invested in this one session every week and I need as much mileage out of it as I can get?!
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Yes, impatience, annoyance and frustration come from high expectations. It is difficult to lower your expectations ("And why should I? The world needs to shape up, not me!"), but it does lead to a calmer lifestyle.
"But I've seen what happens to people with no ambition and no standards." You've got plenty of room to lower your expectations without becoming a "deadbeat".