I think call it whatever helps keep you on track. I honestly don't know how many days it's been since I self harmed. I knew if I counted stuff like burning or scratching or biting then I would give in altogether and go big, if it was going to count might as well make it count, attitude (which is a bad way to look at it I know). Since my main thing was cutting and bleeding I keep track of that and try like hell to avoid doing the 'little' things. This past August I made it 6 years without cutting. If I had 'counted' every little slip I've made there is no way I could have got to where I am now. And no way I could have done it without my husband's and therapists' support.