When we are depressed it makes us see the most negative aspects of life and think the worst of people. we isolate ourselves and when the people we know and love don't immediately read our minds and jump to attention we get upset and think that they don't love us anymore.

SunshineGold you have described a situation where the shoe is now on the other foot. People made mistakes. You made a mistake. It was actually a small mistake with large consequences. But if the people who you love are so quick to jump and assume that you did it with any sort of purpose, then that is their problem, not yours.

I don't know your families situation but I think since your mother understands she will be able to talk to the others and explain to them. I hope this will blow over in time. This must be very upsetting for you but try to give it time for everyone to cool down. Honestly I think it was probably rude for your mother to call you yelling, someone should have made the first call and asked politely what had happened. But at least she listened and understood. Hold on to that and hopefully everyone else will come to understand as well.

Separate the "fault" of your mistake from the anger your family is expressing. The mistake may have been yours but for them to act so incredibly beligerently, even ignoring your calls and "cutting you off" over one event that they have no explanation for, only their own "assumptions", that anger belongs to them and is not your fault.

Goo dluck and hope this is only temporary.

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-- Dave
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