I think everyone parents differently. Playing dress up at home wouldn't bother me but I dress my son in gender specific clothing in public. He has dolls he can play with if he chooses but he doesn't do much with them. I think children will pick up on gender roles and societal expectations no matter how much they are sheltered at home. I dress him as a boy but I love him as a person and that's the most important thing with kids. Just accepting them as they are and working within your family's boundaries.