I have a boyfriend who I have been living with for 6 months. He is a kind and loving person and very supportive to me. I am at my wits end to help him anymore and am pretty much decided to leave because I am not helping him. Nonetheless I would like for someone to help me understand what is going on since I think I can still try to get some help before I make this break with him.

I have tried to take him to a psychiatrist but because we live in a very poor country and health resources are very bad I don't think we found a good psychiatrist. After a twenty minute exam, I was told by the doctors that my boyfriend is normal but that he has issues with commitment and that since I am a dominant person he has problems with reactions to me. I know this is totally wrong. Nor do I believe a diagnosis can be made so quickly.

His problems are as follows: He exhibits angry outbursts. Sometimes they are at the drop of a hat. If I tell him to put on a jacket when it is cold outside he gets angry and rips his jacket to shreds. If he is late to get somewhere he needs to be he has been known to lie down on a busy street while cars are about to run over him and I cant get him up. He has punched walls and windows and mutliated his hands as a result. After an argument with me once he ran out onto the balcony and put one leg over. Thankfully he never jumped. He does not just get agitated because of me. Sometimes he gets angry because he can't find his keys. And the result is the same.

Another symptom is that :He is very afraid of commitment he keeps saying that he is not made for children, mairrage etc.... In addition to this he was completely and utterly impotent and has been for 4 years.

His last psychiatrist and I worked on these problems with him for several weeks in December. When he started being able to have sex again the psychiatrist said that we did not need to come anymore. I knew this was a bad idea. But what could I do. For a while everything was ok. He was able to have sex regularly and the anger outbursts were extremely sporadic and when they did occur they lasted seconds. He moved in with me and we enjoyed a period of tranquility. On New Years eve he proposed to me. I was on cloud 9 because I really love him.

One sticking issue that we did continue to have was the amount of time he wanted to go out. He really really likes to be with his male friends. We compromised about it because at one time he just spent too much time with them. So he did bring it down and that was fine. However what he could not change was the fact that he would just go out without informing me or he would say he would come home at one time and just show up hours later.
Two weeks ago I got angry at him for this. He screamed at me and yelled and told me that he was not cut out for relationships and that he did not want mairrage etc... the same old thing. He had an angry outburst and he broke his fist on the wall.

I know that I made the mistake that many women make since I thought that love and caring could help him overcome this. I see now that I cant do that. Yet I also feel like I cant abandon him. However I need to know what I am facing? Is this PTSD? Or is it something else.

For him I will turn the world around to help. And he is willing to go to counselling.

One more thing:
The reason I think it is PTSD is that we live in the Balkans and fought for over 6 years during 1991-1995 and again from 1999 to 2000 in Kosovo. He was exposed to hell for a long period of time.

I think I may have access to military doctors that have experience with this. I just need to know what I am facing to help.

Can you help me? PS he has no physical problems we already checked this out. He is healthy and his impotence is psychiatric not physical.