Hi,

I know that feeling of wanting to keep our precious therapy sessions to talk about us and not other people, it took me 18 months to realise that it would be useful to talk about my divorce, up until then I refused to waste my money talking about "him" - but I now see my response to the divorce was so very relevant to talk about.

I am sorry you are in such a difficult situation at the moment, it seems like this person is overstepping your boundaries and then saying things that appear to be stopping you in maintaining these boundaries. But IMO these things are very important to discuss with your T, not her behaviour but your response to it - IMO therapy is getting to know ourselves deeply and I think this sounds like a potential significant learning opportunity for you.

Ultimately we are the ones responsible for our own lives, so this person must take responsibiity for hers - it is absolutely not anything to do with you how she may choose to respond to boundaries that you may choose to put in place.

I think for me, if I was in a position where someone was threatening suicide, I would inform the mental health services and / or police and let them deal with it.

Good luck and remember you have every right not to spend time with this person. Soup