I remember when my therapist told me that I wasn't "too much" for her and that she is pretty resiliant. This was after I went through a wkend of emailing her, feeling as if I couldn't stop needing her and terrified I was destroying her. Of course this was how it was with my mother, my needs as a baby were to much for her, she couldn't contain my emotions, she certainly wasn't resiliant. Hearing my therapist confirm she was and that my emailing all wkend wasn't destroying her helped a lot eventually.