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Originally Posted by learning1
There was no way I could immediately remember the scattered thoughts I had and share them with him. It seemed as if I should have thought about what I wanted to say ahead of time so I could have answered his question. So part of what I'm asking is, do you think it's worthwhile to process your thoughts into something coherent to share before your session?
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Think about what you said here. Your last sentence is what your T is trying to get you out of, just more pre-thinking and no feeling.
How did you
feel when your T asked you what you thought? You felt scattered, probably surprised, anxious?, maybe even a little angry that he'd ask you a question you weren't prepared for! That is the difference between thought and feeling, between being prepared (an intellectual activity) and being in the moment. You aren't supposed to "remember" thoughts, you check your heart and see what your thoughts are at the moment. If, at first, it just makes you so overwhelmingly anxious that you can't think, you draw a blank because you are surprised, you say that.
My T and I agreed I would stop saying, "I don't know". One does know, it just takes sitting with your heart and looking for what it answers. It's your life and circumstances and what is happening to you. . .now. So, you are literally the only one who does know.