Hey,

It is likely this woman does this with most of the relationships in her life - becomes too intense- and it's why she has trouble having long lasting friendships with other people.
It sounds like if this goes unaddressed it may get worse and it's already having a very negitive impact on you. I know you don't want to hurt her feelings but everyone has the right to have personal boundaries and for others to respect them and it sounds like this woman is crossing your boundaries and leaving you feeling extremely uncomfortable. You have to tell her that you are not in a position to handle such an intense friendship and although you appreciate the kind gestures, you feel it is too much and would like to take a step back from the friendship.

If you know anyone related to this woman you could perhaps tell them to be aware that she may be feeling vulnerable and to keep an eye on her but if not, this is not your responsibility. Any suicidal actions she takes are her own and telling you that along with - you are my own friend- put you in a very difficult position, which you should not be in.

You must take care of yourself here hun, even if it hurts her feelings.