Hey, guy. You know, you have a couple of options that may well make your task easier. Your task of getting closer to people of the female gender. And the first and most important one is that there's no need at all to start things out in any kind of romantic way.

No. You can start out just by being friendly with girls. Just regular friendly. Girls and women like having just friends as much as us guys do. People to talk to and hang around with. No big deal. Nothing serious. You don't have to worry about selling your soul to them. All you need to do is have fun with them and maybe talk with them about how the world looks to you, what you're doing and what you'd like to do.

Female people are just people too. In their own way. No, they're not entirely like us, but underneath it all most of them are really nice. Very few of them will intentionally hurt you or make you feel bad.

I'll tell you the absolute truth. It took me an awful long time to figure out what I've told you above. I had a lot of brothers and no sisters. Girls and women seemed to me like beings from another planet. Seriously. But then one thing led to another and after quite a number of years of being actually married I finally decided women were just regular people after all.

Girls will laugh their heads off if they read this, because they KNOW they're just people too. But this is the truth. A guy starts out thinking they're weird and incomprehensible. But the more time you spend with them the more normal they seem. They have feelings, just like we do. And they really, no kidding, want to be your friend. They're nice, actually. Nicer than us guys.

So if I were you I wouldn't worry about this all that much. Just be low key and relaxed. Chat with them. Ask them about what they like. Have lunch with them. Tell them about what's close to your heart. Then take it from there. You'll do fine!