Ignorance is ignorance.
If we truely look at family life throughout history it has been far from perfect in many cultures. And there were times when families killed other family members for power, interbred for power, so many things that today we can look back on and think, Oh my God how bad these people were. But they were ignorant, no science about the human being, what happens in the human brain and how a human brain just learns to accept certain behaviors and customs in various societies.

Look at the various issues or disorders we see in the various forums, for as much as we know there is still so much we have yet to learn. We are only beginning to understand what is necessary to raise a healthy human being.

If we are not loved, how are we to know love outside the desire to reproduce?
If we are not taught respect, how are we supposed to respect others, even ourselves?
If we are not treated as worthy human beings, how are we supposed to feel worthy?
If we are born with disabilities we are not truely taught how to overcome and survive, we are often punished and misunderstood.

We are what we know, a parent is only what a parent knows unless that parent is educated and learns how to properly raise a child, run a respectful house hold and have a nurturing relationship with a mate truely honoring the vows taken that begins a relationship that forms a family.

Yes each of us can look back, now knowing what is known today, with disappointment and a sense of loss. And we can see behind that person who was our parent and not only what they were taught but their own personal limitations. We are at the mercy of what we know, unless we continue to learn, speak out and discover the best ways to assure each child the right upbringing to become the best that child can become. We are still ignorant, still allowing people to continue to have children who are truely uneducated as to how to truely raise a child. All one has to do is watch the Supernanny to see the disfunction in so many families and how there is so much chaos and ignorance, almost like children raising children as many adults do not know how to function as true adults.

Ok, so we just went through and are still going trough a time where if is doesn't work, end a relationship, cheat, fight, and give up, do not learn to grow together.

What your siting here Ygrec is ignorance. We see what is expected appearance wise in public view but many are totally clueless of what a real quality family is. Last time we had any idea is Leave it to Beaver, and well there is Rosanne and her comical family, at least there we could see that there is no real perfection. Who really knows what function is, we are still ignorant, are there any real courses in schools educating about healthy family atmospheres? NO.

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