when enough became enough, I realized in a romantic, "starting" (to be) relationship, that the person was lying and also had DID. I fought to be heard, to understand, to keep it alive because it seemed so possible, yet it was hurtful and I finally had to stop thinking with my heart and let reason decide that what some people do as per unacceptable behavior, they will always do; although there is change, yes, it takes alot of work. Counselling can be a mediator if both parties are committed to it. One person can never feel used up or used, manipulated or controlled. Bonds are hard to break, because we've invested in them and they have met some needs. I am determined not to repeat my mistakes.