I relate also Rainbow. I tend to be one who worries a lot and I have found that mindfulness is the only thing that has ever helped with that.

My fears about my own T had calmed down a lot, until he was recently in a bad car accident and it was like this HUGE reality that he.could.have.DIED. just slapped me in the face. I tried to calm down by reminding myself that worrying about it would not make it less likely to happen, but it WILL make me miserable. I still struggle though. He is so very important to me.

I am not religious but find that the serenity prayer often calms me down in terms of worry..... 'God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." Simple, yet profound and very useful.