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Most men have times when they just want sex for the physical sake of sex itself without the entanglement of a relationship. Sometimes a man just wants a woman's body. She can be asleep or drunk or even watching television; he doesn't even care.

There was an expression during World War II that explains this thought process: "Throw a flag over her face and do it for Old Glory!"

Women often wonder, "Why would a man pay for sex when it is easily obtained for free in our society?" The fact is that the man will pay because he is only interested in "getting in and getting out," quickly, and without any other involvement. This way of thinking is practically incomprehensible to a woman.

But even more incomprehensible to a woman is that a man can have sex with a woman he does not love at noon and then expect sex from a woman he does love in the same afternoon. Women can not understand this total separation and then total merger of sex and love.


</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> quote from a sex therapist/expert.

Another person's needs have nothing really to do with our self esteem, imo. Anytime we focus on something like that, we're doomed to come up with a wrong answer, I think. We need to take care of ourselves, realize that who we are comes from within, before being able to take care of others, to be really healthy.