If T were your personal trainer judging your body-building contest, aside from it maybe being a conflict of interest... my T's group call it "developing emotional muscle", which sets me off giggling everytime he says that (even now, just typing it!). Come to think of it, he hasn't mentioned his emotional muscle in a long time... I'm sorry, what was the question? Your T is not judging you. T is helping you develop whatever was left undeveloped, for whatever reason. If they have to kind of trick you to do it, to sneak past the guards (defenses) you have set in place, so what? In bodybuilding, you have to take care not to use the big muscles when trying to build small muscles in the same area. Same diff. That's how I see it.