Hi,,i think you need to focus on the positive aspect of the whole matter,try to think only about how you got out of the relationship which was wilting you...surely you did not like it & you will be happier once you have got over the heartache--it takes time...but help yourself to heal...it is in your hands...don't think melancholy thoughts...reading the post below will help you
"Choose to be happy " http://jeeterah.blogspot.com