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Originally Posted by pachyderm
ALL of their lives.
In my view, healing, or trying to heal, a pedophile can include sequestering him or her from the public. In "jail", if you would describe it that way. But more punishment only continues the cycle of violence. Preventing someone from harming others can be done in a punishing way, and it can be done in a way that is not punishing -- not itself filled with hate. People can be sanctioned to make it clear that certain actions are not acceptable, but punishing does not always change minds in a way that I would like. It often drives things underground.
I note that the main offender in question is quoted as saying at one point that he wished he were dead. Like others, he may (I don't know for sure) have felt himself under a compulsion that he himself hated. Is punishment the answer? Or does it just make you feel less frightened -- temporarily?
My mother's answer to everything was punishment. Did it make me change my ways? Yes. At a great cost. Did it make for any healing? No.
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Firstly I want to make it clear I'm not fighting with you. Punishing an adult for a crime isn't the same as punishing a child, so we can't confuse the two. Personally I don't punish my children but I discipline them by using Positive Parenting. The most that happens is they lose a privilege and the majority of the time we talk things out fairly. If we take your example and apply a broad brush to all criminal activity, then no one would go to jail because we're not supposed to punish anyone. How would there be order in society?