Parker, i am so sorry that your family is going though this horrid turmoil. your DIL is a dangerous person and if you can get the child from her, do so. and be very careful when you have to around her. she sounds like a powerkeg.

do your research, talk to your son and may be get the ex to talk to him. that child needs to be out of there ASAP..I know that this is terribly stressful for you.

my oldest granddaughter has lived with me off and on for most of her life. it causes so much turmoil, but it's worth it. we were lying in bed one night and she reached over and got my hand and said, 'nomi, i'm safe with you'.......