The reason I am in therapy is because I was taught in childhood by my parents not to trust anyone, both explicitly and implicitly. That is, they told me not to trust the outside world, but they taught me not to trust THEM either, by going back on their word to me, tricking me, abusing me, treating me unfairly, etc. So - 20+ years of THAT, plus my adult relationship with them, isn't going to be changed over night, or over a month. I think it's like learning a 2nd language - do it when you're a kid and it's easy, but after a certain age it's a lot harder and it will never come naturally to you. So do we even know HOW to trust? I don't think so. When we "trust" the wrong people, that's not trust, that's being blind, fooling ourselves. It's not KNOWING something about someone, it's NOT knowing something about someone, if you get the difference. You trust them when you know who they are, and like them anyway, can live with them anyway. Does that sound right? Not, I trust him not to hurt me, but if he does, I can divorce him. That's my mother's definition.