I have been married for nearly 10 years and we have two beautiful daughters. I felt my life wity my wife IMPOSSIBLE to survive and hence, 2 years ago I seeked help at a stress councillor. I beleived I had a problem. I could not see my wife happy, she goes into tantrums for the slightest thing or just for nothing at all. She was not like this all the time but since 3 years ago periods of strange behavior were getting too close too each other.

I was hoping the councillor says to me I have a problem, because I know I can change. I knew for a fact that she would not. However, the councillor despite not seeing my wife she realised thas it was her who had a problem. I asked her to councill, but she refused untill one day a big thing happened and I had to call the police. No actions were taken. She decided that we councill together at a neutral councillor. My wife was not accepting what the councillor was telling her but instead she insisted that the councillor and I are teaming against her. We both went to a psychiatrist after she was claiming she feel suicidal when she falls in depression. He said to me 3 times "it will be impossible for a normal person to live a normal life with her". She did not like what he said, and said the psychiatrist need a psychiatrist. My wife depends on friends, she is extra charming to them, lovely, flambouyant and she thinks that with out her their days out are not complete.

Anyway, I come to the point now. She filed for a divorce, and it is becoming very messy. Whatever I offer her it is not enough. I offered her everything, apart from the car but she wanted it. I offered her the car but now she refused to let have access to the children properly. I spoke to the psychiatrist and the councillor, and while the former said that I must make sure I have good access to the kids the councillor emphasised I have their custody. In the UK it is nearly impossible for a father to have kids, but I went ahead and filed for custody.

My question is this, if the court decides that she has the children and I know for sure she will make it difficult for me see them properly, how badly the kids may become affected when the grow up? I wish someone might give an idea. My worry is they grow insecurely like her and they will be affected.

Regards,

FobyC