Rhapsody,

The decision is ultimtely yours. You, yourself know the situation best and going with your gut (judgement) is usually the best with thought.

In my experience, I addressed the issues (very difficult and I was terrified because of all the issues that surfaced because of it) right away, even though he was on his best behavior. While the incident was still fresh and he then knew he had to try or meet me half way to resolve the problems (whoever they belong to) that caused the problem in the first place.

I knew if I let things settle down, he would feel safe and not take my emotions and concerns as seriously because he thought everything was okay. He needs to know that what he did caused you great heartache and continues to do so. If you're willing to work through it, it's going to take time and he is going to have to be patient while you learn to trust again. There are nice ways of saying things to keep him off the defensive, because you don't want that.

"I feel ___(emotion)______ when you _____(behavior)_______ and I would prefer that you _____(new action or behavior)_____."

Hope this is helpful. It still hurts me after three years, I go up and down with my feelings toward him, but we're healing. Communication is the key.
Hugs,
Songbird