The kinds of questions you're asking now, and actually before, make me think that the uncontrollable nature of bipolar life would drive you beyond your tolerance before very long. You seem to want a relationship much more predictable than the sort you'd have with one of us.
That's not a judgment or putdown. We just aren't easy to live with, even really sweet ones like Anika who do their best to bring positives to a relationship.
Give yourself a break. Her too. IMO.