Roadrunner, you said what I was trying to say but better.

If you are not getting what you want or need from the relationship you have to step back and look at it for what it is. You cannot change or will the other person to be or stay. You can choose to move on if you are not happy, or you can choose to stay but under the assumption that things may not change. There is nothing wrong with saying " I cannot handle this". And as hard as I might try my bf definatly feels the effects. There is no way around it.