My T is having an operation next year, and I've only just worked out that I am afraid she might die.

So I’ve been thinking it through. If she died, what would she want for me? The same as anyone who loved me: for me to live a long and happy life. And indeed, isn’t that what we have both worked for all these years? So after a suitable period of mourning, I would honour her legacy by carrying it on with someone else.