ok, i have decided it is NOT worth it. I have layed down the law, and the only access he gets at the mo is wat is officially set. (Not good for me, if i need a bit of help with them, but best in the long run). Big sis is soooooo mucked up by everything you should see the carnage at the house right now... But in 1/2 hour i'm off to our friends in the country for a few hours, so I hope that settles things down a bit... for all of us. Ha- i just thought... if anyone were to take my blood pressure right now they wouldn't get a reading- it would be off the meter!!! So thanks, and I'm off to destress somehow...