I understand so much what odoyle says about bottling up and not asking for the reassurance. I look like I have all I could want, I'm thin, my husband tells me how pretty I am and I have a successful job and healthy children. I'm not happy though at all and know there is no reason for it other than surely self-esteem. I'm totally unable to focus and enjoy the wonderful things in my life and how blessed I am compared to the rest of the world. I feel like if my new husband is unhappy with something, I caused it and maybe he doesn't love me or is sorry he married me 2 months ago. I can't stand for people to be upset with me, even my children. I'm not the girl inside I see in the mirror. I don't ask for reassurance because I know my outfit looks nice, nobody thinks I'm fat, and they would think I'm just asking for compliments, or I'm not appreciating how great I have it. I think my therapist wonders why I can't suck it up and appreciate my life before it's too late. Anyway, If somebody seems needy to me I empathize with them and just tell them they are great, or I understand how hard it is to deal with what's bothering them. Some might handle a blunt word to snap out of their attitude, but if it's someone you only deal with occasionally try to show the love and patience, and then vent to us after they leave