A COUPLE of times?! So even your T couldn't believe what DBT-T was saying, he double-checked it to make sure he was getting it right, is how I read that. And still DBT-T was pressuring you. What a dufus. Your T sounded SO MUCH like my T (as in "mighty" - mine likes to sing, "Here I come, to save the day!" the Mighty Mouse cartoon song?) during your excellent session - makes you wonder, who has been holding back, us or them? Why didn't they "tell" us all this before? But I know it's us. It's so clear from your post, it's us. They wait for us. I know mine asks me - but I pull back, not him. I'm the one who doesn't "know". But it's not about knowing, is it.