I understand what you're saying & have felt that way at times.

However, I also believe that part of my "bearing the brunt" of other people's stuff is part of the reason that I need therapy. If I handled my reactions to other people in a better way, then it wouldn't be such a strain on me. My reaction to other people is part of what I need help with. It's my mismanagement and out of line reactions that are harming me. If I had better coping mechanisms it really wouldn't matter what other people did. Again, I'm only speaking for myself.