Rick Hanson talks about forgiveness. Hanson tells us what forgiveness is and is not and how to go about it.

An excerpt:

Fundamentally, forgiveness frees you from the tangles of anger and retribution, and from preoccupations with the past or with the running case in your mind about the person you're mad at. It shifts your sense of self from a passive one in which bad things happen to you, to one in which you are active in changing your own attitudes: you're a hammer now, no longer a nail. It widens your view to see the truth of the many, many things that make people act as they do, placing whatever happened in context, in a larger whole.

And most profoundly, as you forgive yourself (next week's JOT practice) - which can coincide with serious corrections in your own thoughts, words, and deeds - your own deep and natural goodness is increasingly revealed. http://archive.constantcontact.com/f...007544886.html

Many are reluctant to even consider forgiving. Forgiving is a process that takes work. Those who do the work are rewarded.