Having a date night or a getaway is very difficult for us. It really souldn't be because his mother lives a block away but she will say that she will watch the kids for us and then she won't answer her phone, so we got to the point that we don't even ask. I visited him in N.C. for our anniversary last month and plan on going up there again to visit for Thanksgiving, but again we have the kids. I think we have been out together 1 night in the past year. It is rediculous, but I really don't know or trust anyone to stay with my children so we just hang out at home and may have a few drinks and play some darts while the kids are sleeping. Our life is really quiet boring and I find it unfullfilling most times. I am have been trying to look at the brighter side of things for the last week or so and eventhough it has been difficult at times I find that my days are getting better, especially when the kids behave.