A agree with both of you but there are so many questions and choices I struggle with regarding the relationship that are unique to females considering marrying a male with SZ. He and I both have discussed marriage alot. We talked about various aspects his role my role and my role. He want to and has agreed to support me if we got married but right now it seems he may be unable to sustain a job without getting obsessed with it. I appreciate him for everything he is but just because he is a great guy with sz aside, it doesn't mean he is able to sustain the role of a husband in the way that he and I agree upon. What I want from him is just basic that any female would want from a boyfriend and a female would want in a potential husband. It's seeming like it's not a practical choice to stay with him. I still wish I could find a female perspective of marriage to a guy with SZ.

I've talked to people with SZ, parents of people with sz, males with sz gfs but no women with sz bfs or hubands that have anything positive to say or tips on how they cope. I've always read things that the women are suffering and overwhelmed and that has scared the crap out of me. But I'm still looking for some kind of hope for my situation before I give up for good. It's been a tough road to find hope for myself at least. My bf seems to be coping the best he can and he really doesn't have to cope with not knowing if I will be reliable for him because I am and have gone above and beyond the call of duty for him all this time. It's so changing to have a special needs partner like this.