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Originally Posted by mcl6136
To all of those in therapy,
Those of you who are NOT in therapy are driving me crazy.
*My family of origin, who did more damage than I have space to elucidate.
*My boss, who makes Michael Scott from The Office look like a brilliant people person.
*My former spouse.....
Well, you get the picture. None of these people seem motivated to look at themselves or acknowledge their shortcomings, and yet...here I am in therapy, trying to process this. Yesterday in therapy, I basically wanted to say, I'm here in part because so many people in my life have never done the work of looking WITHIN. And yet, I continue to pay for this process and Why?
I feel really resentful that I'm trying to gain awareness, acceptance, and yet I'm dealing with people who have little interest in what I'm up to! I feel more comfortable with OTHERS who have made this commitment too. People like those on PC. I realize that none of us is perfect here, either, but I do experience this therapy journey as a one-way street. It has alienated me, to a certain extent, from those in my life who haven't ....or won't.
Can anyone else relate?
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Relate? You bet your sweet bippy! (Boy, am I dating myself with that one!) I have one brother, who grew up in the same environment as I did. Here I am, in therapy for the fifth time, and not only has he never been in therapy, but I doubt he has ever done any self-introspection
at all. He just goes his merry way, oblivious to all of his shortcomings, and fully convinced that he is perfect and completely right in everything he does. His take on my being in therapy is "Well, if you feel a need for it ...."
Bah! I too feel more comfortable with others who are looking to heal and improve themselves and go through the entire painful therapy process. Therapy is not for wimps! It takes incredible stamina and perserverence to open yourself up and look unflinchingly at what's inside. (Well, maybe with a little flinching ... OK, a lot of flinching
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MCL, I'm sorry that you have to deal with family members who feel the way they do. It must be so difficult to put up with their attitudes. Except for my brother, all of my family members are dead. But in the end, I believe you (and all the rest of us in therapy) are doing the right thing. Some day, God willing, we'll become whole, integrated people with a certain amount of inner peace. And they won't.
