I have been with my partner for almost 2 years now. We just recently got married to each other(not legal but a spiritual marriage, being lesbian and all). We have had a myriad of issues and have made it through most, and am still working on the others, but it keeps constantly coming back to one issue.. sex.. She says that i don't "interest" her, and that her mind is wondering. She says that I don't try at all. That i don't initiate often enough (if ever). That when we do "do it" its awkward and not fun. She says a lot of other things too. I would rather not share. I feel like the sex is awesome, when we have it, but it seems to not happen very much.

It is true i haven't felt like doing it lately, i admit to not initiating enough. But i do try. My efforts are not enough, or not right. I feel like it doesn't matter what i do. Any suggestions? Advice? I do not know what to do or try, and i am tired of thinking that this will resolve itself , because it isn't. I need to try something.