Nick.. so much wonderful advice you have been offered ... as the others have said read and read and read about biploar .... If you think you can conform her into something thats easier to " deal with" than you are seriously in trouble ..

Myself being bipolar well ....I cant stand someone trying to " fix" me ....there is no " fix" just management when the world tilts for us.

There are times when I do not want anyone telling me what to do ....The only person that I will listen to is my T... Right now he is the only one I trust will all my demons and the hell of Bipolar .

Being Bipolar is hell for us ..but it can also be hell on those that love us..

Take a step back for both your sakes .

Good Luck