I didn't mean to sound offensive when I wrote special needs. I only meant he has certain needs that are unique.

For example, for a very long time he use to be affraid of me being social in general and specifically he didn't want me having male friends and going where males at such as the gym.

In reality I'm a shy, quiet kind of person who wanted to begin building great friendships with people and wanted to exercise to become healthier. Besides guys don't really pay attention to me anyway so I didn't see the big deal with anything. Even if they did, I have a boyfriend so it wouldn't matter if any guys paid attention to me.

My point is that my bf's need for me not to be social was unique since most people's partners WANT them to be social. Of course I continued to be social as I wanted but I didn't end up going to the gym only because of some health issues that I was having.

At that time he was having a paranoid episode and I guess he needed me to be a certain way that would help him cope which was not to do something that would help stir up his paranoia. This is just my theory.

But of course doing the opposite was the most healthy thing for me. Now, I realized I'm going on a tangent. sorry.