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Irreplaceable · Nov 17, 2011, 12:59 PM

Well, I will say this...There is a difference between "friends" and "acquaintances"....I don't call everyone I know or everyone I socialize with my "friend"...I judge by people's actions among other things....

Second, in general, I have found that the older you get, the harder it will be to make and keep friends...For example, during college, it was waaaaaayyyyy easier for me to make and find friends and acquaintances (this is also during a time in my life where I wasn't as depressed)...Now that I'm an adult, with adult responsibilities, and a family, and a job, and bills, it's harder for me to find and make friends...Because most of my life and time centers around adult responsibilities...And I have also heard alot of other people say how hard it is to find friends when you are older...Meaning, out of college....

And third....And most importantly, being bipolar definetly DEFINETLY henders relationshipships...When you figure in the anxiety, the desire to sleep alot (well for me at least) and the fact that I don't trust people easily and for the most part I have a guard/wall up with mostly everyone, it worsens the situation...I have gone, I would say most of my adult life with friends, that I can count on one hand and still have fingers left...The one friend I had, and lost recently, I don't know what happened with the relationship...But I can tell you, I know alot of it has to do with me...Not all of it but alot...She would always call, want to go out (clubs/bars)...She would sometimes get a little upset, because as someone else mentioned, I wouldn't answer text or calls...Because I was sleep....Look, on the weekends, I'm sleeping...I'm barely leaving the house...If I am, it's to run a quick errand....And I really don't like visitors at my home...At all...So, yea, needless to say, that friendship is over, and I'm ok with it...It is what it is...