its very important for couples to have their time together ALONE. its hard when u have kids. me and my husband go out alone at least once a week. its really nice to just enjoy each other. make each other feel appreciated and wanted. i understand the feeling of just leaving ur children with someone i sometimes dnt feel comfortable leaving our daughter with my mother in law lol i know theres a website called care.com they run background checks on any sitters u hire from the site.

i wish ur marriage the best. and i hope you feel better