I know it seems a bit idealistic, but then again so was the concept of gay marriage 30 years ago. Or women holding executive positions 40 years ago. Or black people riding in the front of a bus 50 years ago. Or even women voting 100 years ago.

Believe me DSF - nothing could have convinced me to risk my career when I was in my 20's. I know what you're feeling because I used to be the same way. I ended up getting divorced over loyalty to my career over my family. I had a change of perspective after that, possibly has something to do with getting older as well, and having more confidence in myself. There is something about exuding confidence that causes people to rethink their tendency to stereotype. It was super liberating to realize that. DSF, I hope you don't think I'm picking on you. It's just that you, to me, seem like someone strong enough to make a HUGE difference in this area. I have a lot of faith in you - you are clearly very intelligent, articulate, outspoken, and know what you want out of life. A little more strength in the area of being true to yourself and not giving a hoot what other people think will take you further than you ever imagined you could go.