Hi Skysblue, in the last year I have purchased 45 books to help me understand this damn therapy from In Session to Start Where You Are (Pema Chodron) - I have read them all and yet I am still with that utter confusion and tiresome whirring of my brain to understand it all - I think all it has really achieved is absolute exhaustion - so I think the answers to your questions do not lie in words, but in experiences - you have to go through the journey with T to really feel it and with the feeling comes understanding, but without words. When you know absolutely that you have experienced it, then there will be no more ambiguity, the journey ahead will achieve absolute clarity.

SD