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Originally Posted by rainbow8
She wants me to find peace and happiness in RL, so where does feeling good with her fit in? I feel like I can't enjoy the feelings with her because of my "pattern" of wanting too much from Ts.
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((((((Rainbow)))))))
Why can't you have both? It feels good and safe when my T hugs me at the end of a session. It feels good and safe when I go to my women's 12 step meeting on Friday nights. I feel happy and peaceful when my boys and I watch a show together. It feels relaxing and satisfying to knit something for someone. It makes me feel happy when H and I laugh together. It's all true and real and okay.
Feeling good with T doesn't take away the other good feelings. And the other good feelings don't take away feeling good with T.
It does feel extra good to get a hug from T...but I don't feel like I have to question it or worry about it. I don't worry when it makes me feel happy to give a knitted gift to someone, or when I have other good feelings.
It's okay for something to feel good.
