time for the talk then and tough love....pick a time for them to be out...and stick to it...its simple but not simple of course and it hurts. I know...been there ......I had al-anon which kept me strong, and I was able to after a while easily set boundries and easily adhere to them...once I did that the rules were set, and all went well......kids know now exactly what I will do or will not do...there is not even a question.

If you have a therapist this is an excellent thing to bring up and work on in therapy. You will need a lot of support yourself to get through this!!!

Thinking of you!