Can all of you say that in all of your relationships you have never hurt someone unintentionally?

To say that you are trustworthy & honest is fine, but that's really no guarantee that you won't hurt someone without meaning to. I hurt a good friend, someone I cared about so much & would have never hurt on purpose, but I said something without knowing how it would affect her. I didn't know her well enough to know I would trigger something from her past.

She has never forgiven me. In fact, she's cut off all communication--I can't even apologize, she won't listen.

This was a friendship, not a sexual relationship where such things can happen probably even more easily. I know my (former) friend feels betrayed--which is betrayal for her. But I didn't betray her. Does that make sense?

Life is complicated. Relationships are complicated. I think we do them & ourselves an injustice when we reduce them to black/white right/wrong judgments. The less we reduce them to being all the same, the more we can see them as being unique events, the easier it will be for us to move on & trust a different person in a different time and place.