Thread: t came close to firing me
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Old Nov 18, 2011, 11:34 PM
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no wonder there's so much scared and mad - i'm sorry things don't feel safe for you at the moment. if we've grown up in unpredicatable households, things like this can send us reeling. journal about your feelings hun - don't let them fester and eat at you. then talk to t when you see her again. if she was scared, it may have been a knee jerk reaction and not what she'd usually do in that situation. have a talk to her, let her know how you felt about the interaction. talking to her about your feelings over it will be safe.

PS: i've missed seeing you around
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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Thanks for this!
kasva