no wonder there's so much scared and mad - i'm sorry things don't feel safe for you at the moment. if we've grown up in unpredicatable households, things like this can send us reeling. journal about your feelings hun - don't let them fester and eat at you. then talk to t when you see her again. if she was scared, it may have been a knee jerk reaction and not what she'd usually do in that situation. have a talk to her, let her know how you felt about the interaction. talking to her about your feelings over it will be safe.
PS:

i've missed seeing you around